Exchanging your vows and the rings

If you are exchanging vows please take the time to learn them or at least write them out on a small attractive piece of card. Nothing looks worse than you standing in front of the entire congregation with a crumpled piece of A4 paper that you printed out at home.

Exchanging the rings. When you are exchanging the rings try and bear in mind how you appear to the photographer who has to photograph this crucial moment. If you turn slightly or block their view with an arm, shoulder or your back, the chances of getting a good shot are greatly reduced.

If you are getting married in a church and have chance to speak to the priest try and check the for the following:

Is the priest planning on having you speak into a microphone for the vows?

Sometimes in the church (often the larger ones) they use a wireless microphone so that the congregation can hear you loud and clear. The problem is that while we are trying to photograph you looking at each other and saying your vows to one another, the priest has a tendency to stick his arm out and put the microphone in front of your mouth, this clearly is not going to help the photos. Assure the priest that you don’t need one and can speak up and be heard just fine.

The other thing to watch is the priest may have a tendency to come very close to you this greatly reduces the angles from which we can photograph you and avoid having the priest in the photo. For some photos we will photograph you and the priest together but we would also like to be able to photograph you apart from the priest.

The exchanging of the rings is one of those moments when we would ideally like to have a clear shot of you without the priest in view.

Obviously these are delicate matters that need to be approached carefully to avoid causing any aggravation with your priest. If you know your priest or have one that seems very friendly and approachable you can try and tactfully address these points.

Jules Bower

Italian and destination wedding photographer Jules Bower photographs weddings in Italy, Europe and worldwide. His unique approach and expertise arrive from not only an obsession with photography but also because he owned one of the first and most successful wedding planning agencies in Italy.

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